Now that you have evaluated your
marriage and family relationships, it may be useful for you to now look at
other relationships in which you are involved.
Again, this is not a test. It is,
rather, a way of focusing on your interpersonal strengths and on those positive
interpersonal elements to which you may want to give a little more time and
There are twenty-two PIP
elements. Together they represent those
qualities and traits that are seen in people who are both positive and effective
interpersonally. Again, the key is to
spend most of your time doing what you do well, while spending some time and
effort increasing those things that you do less well or less often.
One at a time, add each of the
twenty-two elements to this statement: I am __________ in my relationships
with other people. For example, I am
accepting in my relationships with other people.
Using the same rating system used
for your marriage and family relationships, decide if the statement is almost
always true (5), usually true (4), sometimes true (3), seldom true (2), or
almost never true (1) for you. Enter the
number you have given yourself on the blank to the left of the element.
Once you have completed the process
for all twenty-two elements, add together the ratings for all elements and
divide the total by twenty-two. The
results will be a number from 1 to 5.
The goal is to achieve a score of 4 or above within all of your relationships. This overall score may be referred to as your
interpersonal Positive Interpersonal Programming.