You want your children to become effective,
successful adults. Reaching this goal begins with having clear notions about
what qualities and characteristics effective and successful adults share. You
then encourage them in your children. Alternatively, those qualities and
characteristics not found in effective and successful adults should be
Most all adult characteristics, good or bad, are
seen in children at some stage in their development. Small children, for
example, take things that do not belong to them. With adults, this is called
stealing. Three- and four-year-old children have temper tantrums as a normal
part of their emotional development. If they still have tantrums when they are
twenty-five or thirty years old, it is clearly unacceptable. Small children
frequently misrepresent what has happened and do not tell parents how things
really are. In adults, this is called lying.
Small children are loving and affectionate.
Hopefully, they are still that way when they are grown. Small children are
spontaneous and enthusiastic. If all goes well, they are still that way when
they are adults. Qualities and characteristics desirable or undesirable in
adults should be encouraged and discouraged as your children grow and mature.