“We judge ourselves by what we feel
capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.” –
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Although Longfellows pronouncement has superficial
plausibility, its merely an example of polar logic. One pole is what you feel
capable of doing and the other is what you have already done. The judgment
reduces to can and did. You judge yourself based on can and others judge you
based on did, according to Longfellow. The reality is that such judgments
rarely reduce to either can or did, for you or for others who judge you.
Look first at can. If this is a judgment you make about yourself,
is it reasonable to make it without considering did? Relying exclusively on
what you think you can do, without considering what you have done, places no
value on prior experience. It also acknowledges an inability to learn.
Alternatively, if you consider did to the exclusion of can, your behavior is
simply repetitive; and you will need to take Albert Einsteins observation to
heart, Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting
Look next at did. If others are expecting change, improvement,
innovation, or new approaches and strategies, you arent the person they need.
They can only expect you to do again what you did before. Unless can is
considered, nothing new or different ever happens. The conclusion is that can
and did arent separable. They are the head and tail of the coin of progress.
How then should one approach success? What is the best strategy
for blending did and can? Arthur Schopenhauer pointed out, a man can do as he
will, but not will as he will. The message is that you cant simply will
things to happen. You have a wide range of options for doing but no magical
powers. Alexander Graham Bell said, The most successful men in the end are
those whose success is the result of steady accretion It is the man who
carefully advances step by step, with his mind becoming wider and wider – and
progressively better able to grasp any theme or situation – persevering in what
he knows to be practical, and concentrating his thought upon it, who is bound to
succeed in the greatest degree.
The basis for judgment is now clearer. You and those who judge
you focus on both did and can. Success is a blending of the two sides of the
coin; and if your goal is to get a thumbs-up from you and from others, you need
to get high marks on this short quiz. Good luck!
1. Are you carefully advancing, step by step?
2. Is your mind becoming wider and wider?
3. Are you persevering in what you know to be practical?
4. Are you concentrating on succeeding?
its simply a variation on the old story, Nothing succeeds like success.